“Diamonds are a girl’s best friend” they say. “Diamonds are forever.” As my four year anniversary with Patrick flew by this past August and having bought a condo this year, there are moments where I think hard about a proposal, a wedding, a life together… That kind of stuff.
I don’t like to make it obvious that I think about these things (people don’t peg me as the type to, I can be pretty savage IRL), but I do. But as someone who thrives with an occasional “treat yo self” mentality while living affordably, I’d like to think there is another finer option than a diamond.
And there is! Perhaps you’ve heard about it, but I just learned about moissanite this year (I’m late, I know 🙄), and it seems there’s been a rise in popularity in this unique gem.
<Cue advertisement> Because it’s affordable. Lab-created and therefore cruelty free; have you heard of blood moissanites? Exactly. And it mimics a diamond so well. It’s not a “fake diamond”, it’s a moissanite. Just a different rock.
- Natural moissanite is extremely rare, so instead it is synthesized in a lab. And because it’s created in a lab, you can bet your dollar that you’ll get quality goods.
- Second to diamond in Moh’s Scale of hardness (it’s 9.25, while diamond is 10), but more brilliance (refractive, think disco ball) than diamond. </end advertisement>
Hearing people talk about their significant others dishing +$10k for a ring makes me all 😐🙃😵 from the sheer absurdity, especially considering things these days are getting pricey. For the price of a 1 carat diamond ring, you could get a pretty decent 6.5mm (1 carat) solitaire moissanite ring, in addition to: a cat (for myself I’d prefer a munchkin, british shorthair, or scottish fold), an Apple desktop, or an amazing honeymoon + multiple trips, with some left over. Or whatever you choose.
Or you could use it to pay off a house/condo. Because who wants to start their married life with debt? Most of all, from a rock? Nope, because a house/condo is enough.
But do remember, purchasing moissanite is a choice, agreed on by both parties. So don’t think of it as settling (it’s a beautiful gem in and of itself), and don’t try to pass it off as a diamond 😂!
I know, some people think a cheap ring means all sentiment loss. Or a diamond alternative is “just not the same”. Or that a diamond is an investment (which I doubt, because it’s not property or stocks, it’s a shiny, very hard rock 🙃). But in this day and age things are getting expensive as f*ck.
Which sucks, but it makes you really question what is important: in life, in love, in your goals – as an individual and as a soon-to-be family. Especially if you don’t have the means to do all the things you want like lottery winners, mister/missus moneybags, and generally, the wealthy.
I’m not really talking about living with minimalism. And I’m not bashing diamonds and the people who want/buy them. Rather, it’s what is important for your future. For my (our) future. I don’t expect an expensive ring. Perhaps you do, be it your preference or what, which is totally fine, but consider your situation, and what you want it to be, how you want to live your life.
What I hope for in a life of marriage (other than love) is financial stability: earning enough and having the resources to be able to do meet the demands of adulting and the things both of us enjoy. Going out for fun, dining out, treating each other and our families, maintaining and taking on new hobbies, travelling… I don’t want to know that what rests on my finger could have opened doors to opportunities and experiences.
Moreover, I don’t want him slaving away for an expensive rock that “justifies” how much he loves me. I know he does, because I can feel it in his actions, his words, and even in moments of silence.
And anyways, given the nature of my work it’ll face wear and tear (hopefully not the latter 😂). But in the end it’s the memories created and being able to pursue what you want, opening doors to new experiences and revisiting old ones, that are important. To me, those are forever. ❤️